There are many skills that families can learn that will help you to relate to and support someone with BPD. These may seem complex at first – like a muscle we haven’t used before we become stronger and the skills becomes easier with practise. We suggest you practise these skills with other friends/colleagues first to develop some confidence.
Peer Guided DBT lessons - Radical Acceptance (NB This clips talks about the DBT skills of radical acceptance for people experiencing distress - it is not specific for family/friends)
Radical Acceptance: a short video by Dr. Rebecca Kason, Koch Center therapist.
Eight dramatised role plays between young friends showing invalidating and validating responses and the immediate consequences of each
Understanding Validation in Families: Dr Alan Fruzzetti.
Dr. Galen reviews the critically important skill of validation. She discusses the ways in which you can either begin or continue to practice the skill of validation with those in your life, particularly those diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. (McLean Hospital)
In the previous webinar Dr. Galen discussed the critically important skill of validation. In this webinar, Dr. Galen answers questions from participants about challenges that they have experienced when trying to use validation. (McLean Hospital)
Being Mindful of Emotion to Validate Self and Other - Kelly Koerner, PhD
Why provide Validation in DBT - Dr. Charles Swenson
Discusses 'validating the valid' and 'self-validation'
What is the best way to ease someone's pain and suffering? In this beautifully animated RSA Short, Dr Brené Brown reminds us that we can only create a genuine empathic connection if we are brave enough to really get in touch with our own fragilities.
Brené Brown studies human connection -- our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk at TEDxHouston, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity
A series of videos demonstrating how Dialectical Behavioral Therapy helps patients and their families; This series was developed jointly by NEA.BPD (Dr. Alan Fruzzetti) and the National Office for Suicide Prevention in Ireland
McLean Hospital Borderline Personality Disorder Family and Consumer Education Initiative YouTube Channel - numerous presentations including:
Parents often find it hard to negotiate how much responsibility they should accept vs. how much responsibility their child should accept when navigating both large and day to day decisions. This can be particularly challenging when there is a high level of distress and an accompanying worry about how that level of stress or dysregulation may affect the child’s ability to make good decisions and or stay safe.
Validating for carers and really good one for extended family and friends to understand the family dynamic